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Beautiful walk to the beach with the kids and dog! It was sunny, warm, spacious and just what we needed. AND there wasn't any complaining! Thankful for our gorgeous home & planet!
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Beautiful walk to the beach...

See that laptop and books right there?

Yeah, it's been sitting in that same spot untouched all day. Mason has completely hit his limit with this "distance learning". And I'll be honest I'm almost ready to call it summer break already(a month early)! It was going so well until about 2 weeks ago when his defiant personality decided it was done with this type of schooling, and depression and social anxiety in full swing! Isolation is so tough on ours/everyone's mental health and I don't know if we can take anymore of it! 
#mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalillness #socialdistancing #quarantinelife #isolation #distancelearning #momlife

See that laptop and books...

The gang is coming over for #SCOOBMovieNight today! #SCOOB is now available to watch instantly. 
Join #SCOOBMovieNight via the Twitter Watch Party tonight at 4PM PST. 
Will you join us? 
Be sure to check out my blog for a chance to win your own SCOOB party box including the movie. 
#WBpartner #scoobydoo #entertainment #warnerbros #WB #movies #stayhome #movienight #familytime #quarantinelife

The gang is coming over...

2020 is the year I told myself I'd start focusing on a healthier lifestyle and one thing I've been working on is eating a plant based diet. I've still got a ways to go but I'll get there and so far I feel great! 🌳I've partnered with LightLife to bring you this post, but all opinions are my own. One thing I'm new to is tempeh, after eating the vegan tacos I made, I'm totally sold! I made these amazing tacos with sweet potatoes and Lightlife Original Tempeh. I didn't miss the meat at all!
🌳Tempeh can be used for a number of meals as a protein replacement, available for purchase at your local grocery store(I've found ours at Fred Meyer and @imperfectfoods ) typically for $3.49. Easy to prep, vegan certified, has a savory and slightly nutty flavor, non-GMO and 12g of protein. 
#sponsoredpost #momsmeet #lightlife #tempeh #plantbased #vegan #health #wellness #healthandwellness

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From the book “You can’t make me, but I can be persuaded” by Cynthia Tobias:

“Dr. Breggin said that Newsweek had asked the questions: “Where are the great thinkers of the 90s? Where the Freuds, the Einsteins, the Picassos?” Dr. Breggin then responded with a sobering thought: “What if we’re medicating them?” Tobias wrote “When you think about it, all three of those great men would have fit most if not all of the symptoms of many learning disorders.”

I first published about Mason’s strong-willed personality a couple months back, find the post here. Well, we’ve had a pretty awesome summer, no it hasn’t been outburst free but it’s getting better. We have learned so much the past couple months, it has really helped by doing research, reading books and articles about a “strong-willed” personality. With a strong-willed personality you really have to look at the whole picture and think about it; is it a spoiled brat moment or is it his personality and he really can’t help it? And believe me you really can see the difference, but it takes time and practice.

After reading articles like this one at Aha!Parenting.com or others and all these other children have the same exact traits as Mason does or certain ways we were already parenting like – that came naturally. Strong-willed personality is a REAL thing and NO it doesn’t have to run your life!

The first step to any parent is recognizing their child is a SWC and no you can’t change that and you shouldn’t want to. No, they don’t need medications. No, they don’t need to be beat. No, strong discipline will not solve anything.  Next do research, read a book, talk to other parents about the subject SWC. There is a lot of knowledge out there that will help, and it will help tremendously! Lastly all that knowledge you are reading, use it and you will notice wonders with your child. And make sure when you find what works great for your child, that you let all the other adults in his/her life know.

Wondering if you child is a SWC? – stubborn, high energy, challenging, persistent, determined, doesn’t like the word no, likes to be “in charge”?

These things work wonders for Mason and it sounds like most other Strong-Willed!

Routines/Rules – our day runs so much smoother when there is routine, and the rule thing works wonderfully, it makes him feel like we’re not trying to control him it’s just a rule everyone has to follow.

Prime/Prompt/Front Load – this is a huge one for Mason, telling him what I expect of him before going somewhere/doing something and sometimes I will add in the consequence, example before going to the playground, “if you start mis-behaving, we will leave”. And going over scenarios.

Choices – seriously if you tell a SWC “go brush your teeth now” they will not go without a fight, but if you tell a SWC “you can either go brush your teeth now or in 5 minutes?” they think they are in charge and bam no arguments! Give choices, make them feel like they are still in charge. Let them be in charge of as much as possible, let them make decisions, they are amazingly smart children.

I’ve come to love Mason’s personality and feel very lucky to have such a strong child and we will continue to embrace it! Do you have a SWC? I would love to chat with you, are you looking for advice, a support group/parent, did you raise a SWC…

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“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval." - #MarkTwain

“A man cannot be comfortable...

“Nature is painting for us, day after day, pictures of infinite beauty.” – #JohnRuskin

“Nature is painting for us,...

Beautiful walk to the beach with the kids and dog! It was sunny, warm, spacious and just what we needed. AND there wasn't any complaining! Thankful for our gorgeous home & planet!
🌻

Beautiful walk to the beach...

See that laptop and books right there?

Yeah, it's been sitting in that same spot untouched all day. Mason has completely hit his limit with this "distance learning". And I'll be honest I'm almost ready to call it summer break already(a month early)! It was going so well until about 2 weeks ago when his defiant personality decided it was done with this type of schooling, and depression and social anxiety in full swing! Isolation is so tough on ours/everyone's mental health and I don't know if we can take anymore of it! 
#mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalillness #socialdistancing #quarantinelife #isolation #distancelearning #momlife

See that laptop and books...

The gang is coming over for #SCOOBMovieNight today! #SCOOB is now available to watch instantly. 
Join #SCOOBMovieNight via the Twitter Watch Party tonight at 4PM PST. 
Will you join us? 
Be sure to check out my blog for a chance to win your own SCOOB party box including the movie. 
#WBpartner #scoobydoo #entertainment #warnerbros #WB #movies #stayhome #movienight #familytime #quarantinelife

The gang is coming over...

2020 is the year I told myself I'd start focusing on a healthier lifestyle and one thing I've been working on is eating a plant based diet. I've still got a ways to go but I'll get there and so far I feel great! 🌳I've partnered with LightLife to bring you this post, but all opinions are my own. One thing I'm new to is tempeh, after eating the vegan tacos I made, I'm totally sold! I made these amazing tacos with sweet potatoes and Lightlife Original Tempeh. I didn't miss the meat at all!
🌳Tempeh can be used for a number of meals as a protein replacement, available for purchase at your local grocery store(I've found ours at Fred Meyer and @imperfectfoods ) typically for $3.49. Easy to prep, vegan certified, has a savory and slightly nutty flavor, non-GMO and 12g of protein. 
#sponsoredpost #momsmeet #lightlife #tempeh #plantbased #vegan #health #wellness #healthandwellness

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